Adventures of Cycling Central America

5 Months Creating Lifetime Memories

January 2016 Bismarck, ND Greyhound Bus Station
L-James R-Robert departing Bismarck, ND bus station January 2016

Robert and James, two twenty-something North Dakota (ND) males bicycling through Central America. One returns after four months, leaving the other to end his 3200+ mile journey 37 days later in Costa Rica. Along the way, they sleep in mango groves, the Mexican desert, on a dry river bed and the front yard of a drunken Dutchman’s property. They hike into a blizzard on a 17,000 foot mountain. Wild cats in El Salvador destroy the tent. They eat Chapulines-salted and dried grasshoppers.  Robert spends two days alone sweating out sickness in a dodgy, non-air-conditioned Honduran hotel room. His bike gets 7 flat tires. Yet, the abundant generosity and kindness of the Central American people sticks forever.

Day before James left Guatemala. Summit of Acatenango, 13,005 ft, with the Volcan de Fuego erupting behind us.
Day before James left Guatemala. Summit of Acatenango, 13,005 ft, with the Volcan de Fuego erupting in background.

Would you see this movie? Does the plotline pique your interest? It does mine. Except this isn’t yet a movie. It’s the true story of Robert Deringer and James Sigl, 2005 Bismarck High School graduates, intrigued enough by human power travel to embark on this life-changing journey.

 

 

In a Question and Answer session, Robert, a Minneapolis, Minnesota (MN) based arborist, shares his trip experience.

Trip Preparation

Q: Are you adventurous by nature?

A: I’ve participated in my fair share of 6, 12, 24 hour and even multiple day adventure races involving navigation, biking, trail running, a water element (kayak or canoe) and mystery challenges. I enjoy surrounding myself with people pushing their physical limits.

Having shared that, this was my first real big bike tour. I rode from St. Paul, MN to Lacrosse, Wisconsin with a friend once. I’ve only bicycled 100 miles in a day three times in my life, none on this Central American trip.

Q: Would you have done this trip alone?

A: Before going, I would’ve been hesitant. Not from a safety standpoint, but the joy of having a shared experience with someone is one of the strongest unifiers we have in this world. Today, I would say “yes” because the trip was truly that amazing.

Q: Did you ever question your decision?

A: I never questioned taking the trip, but I was questioning how life was going to move on without me while gone. What would change? I turned down a job to go. I moved out of my apartment and purchased a bike. So, I was committed.

Q: What was your greatest fear before leaving ND?

A: Will the deep love my girlfriend and I share endure? The fear was unnecessary. We grew stronger. She found tons of new passions in my absence and it made hearing her voice and seeing her in person that much sweeter.

aloneQ: What type of bike did you ride?

A: A Surly Long Haul Trucker made 5 miles from my house in Bloomington, MN with waterproof paniers. It treated me so well; the thing is nearly bomb-proof. I should’ve done more research on tires; the final 870 miles were much easier on Schwalbe Marathon Plus Tires.

Q: How did you train physically?

A: We didn’t train at all. The body is an amazing thing. I saw firsthand how adaptable both the body and mind are. Almost every blog we read before going said not to train, “Your legs will show up eventually.”

boyQ: How did you prepare financially?

A: We estimated monthly expenses to be $300-$500, living frugally by cooking our own meals and camping most of the time. Turns out things were less expensive. Near the end, we were eating out two meals daily because the food was good and cheap. Plus, we got to interact with locals. We didn’t take odd jobs. Instead, we had a pact to help when needed. For instance, we offered water to a stranger for his stranded vehicle’s radiator. I gave a kid a pair of biking gloves after seeing his calloused hands. I also helped raise a rafter for a Nicaraguan family with whom I stayed.

Q: How did you prepare mentally and emotionally?

A: I made a conscious decision to succeed on this journey by slowing down, relaxing, and letting the world come to me. With that mindset I didn’t need to prepare much mentally. Emotionally was a whole different story. It was stressful and sad during the final days before leaving. My apartment kept getting emptier. I also realized I wouldn’t see my girlfriend until her summer visit. I leaned on her, family and friends to help me move and keep my possessions until I returned.

Route Map
Route Map

Q: What sort of advance planning did you do?

A: Preparing the bike, picking out essentials and getting the life I was leaving behind in order were the most crucial elements of planning. After boarding the bus from Bismarck to Tucson, Arizona in January, very few decisions required much thought. Things were simple. I chose a quality person to travel with, had a great bike and mapped out the first few days. My advice for others is that the road will look quite different from what you imagine. You’ll start to meet a huge cast of characters who will soon alter the course of your entire journey.

The Trip

Q: Talk about housing.

A: We knew hotel stays were limited to days we were sick, super tired or needed a shower or morale booster. Early on the best housing was free in the Mexican desert. Looking for a place to camp was one of the wildest parts of the trip.

Central American people are laid back, accommodating and, quite frankly, unfazed. If it was clear who the land owner was, we’d seek permission. If not, we’d camp and leave the place as we found it. A few times the land owner would show up, hang out with us, offer food or coffee and carry on. Most everyone thought what we were doing was cool. We were conscious about not using, or abusing, resources.

We did our best to help out with a chore in exchange. In El Salvador, I made a peanut butter and jelly sandwich for a host’s child. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a child’s eyes that big since.

Of course, in larger cities we used Couch Surfing or another form of radical and reciprocal hospitality for touring cyclists called Warm Showers.

Q: What did you miss most?

A: My girlfriend, but we could talk and text most days, making it easier. I also missed having a kitchen. We cooked great meals out in the bush with convenience store food, a camp stove and some ingenuity. For instance, I used the back of a Mexican license plate, found on the roadside, as a cutting board. As fun as the challenge of cooking was, it was a driving factor in getting a cabin for a month in Guatemala. It had a kitchen with a small fridge and some counter space, making it feel like Heaven.

Q: What scared you most on the journey?

A: Enjoying the road and never coming back. We met plenty of people who fell in love with a place, made it their home and never looked back. Another fear that didn’t come true for me.

Q: Describe your most memorable day.

A: After leaving the Pacific Coast city of Mazatlán, we rode up (Mexico has mountains.) for almost 90 days. In just one day, all of that elevation came back as we dropped 7000 feet. I’ve never felt so alive on a bicycle before. James, who was ahead of me, had a cold beer waiting for me at a small store that was hugging the road to the deep valley below.

Normally, I’d have been accepting of the gift. However, earlier that month an ATM ate my debit card. I was near penniless. Yet, we sat there celebrating the downhill by drinking two Tecate beers-30 to 40% of our current net worth.

That night we ate two boxes of cereal at the bottom of the hill because there was no ATM in the town or even restaurants open when we arrived.We went to bed emotionally full by the day’s happenings, but hungry.

Q: Describe a site you will always remember.

Cascada Chiflon
Cascada Chiflon

A: I will remember all the sights as I looked outside my tent door thinking, “How on earth did I get here? I’ll never be here again in my lifetime.” One particular stand-out place is Cascada El Chiflon both because of the beauty and the date we visited. It coincided with Prince’s death on April 21, 2016. As a Minneapolis resident and Prince fan, I received numerous messages as James and I started our ascent to the waterfalls. All of the flowers we saw on the hike were purple, so it appeared Prince was everywhere. As a Minnesotan, one will always remember where he was when Prince died.

Lessons Learned

Q: What did you learn about the people of the world?

A: People aren’t “out to get you.” And, nothing brings people together like a good meal. We’d seen State Department travel warnings for the region and had an awareness of crimes reported. But overall, most people are good.

Q: What was the #1 lesson you learned about yourself?

A: Clearly that I rush things too much. The best days were when we took it slow and made time to sit on storefront benches and observe the community.

Q: What have you learned you can live without?

A: The arrogance and consumption of first world countries. I not only survived but flourished 5 months riding a non-motorized vehicle with 4 attached bags. Stuff is just stuff. Sometimes stuff gets in the way of real living.

Back in the USA

Q: Why did you come back?

bicycleA: The beauty of travel is the opportunities it affords you. When you are no longer gracious for that opportunity, it’s time to call it quits. When I crossed the 3106-mile mark and a few days after leaving Ometepe Island in Nicaragua, I biked an entire day without taking in my surroundings. I was just focused on getting to Costa Rica. Then, I knew my gratitude toward the road was slipping away. I returned to the USA one week later.

Q: Describe the transition back to American culture.

A: It was harder than I ever imagined. Deplaning in Baltimore, Maryland I spoke to gate agents in Spanish until they looked at me strangely. Everything seemed so new and shiny. Gone was the grit and broken-in feel of my surroundings just 24 hours ago. I spent a week looking for toilet paper disposals because in Central America one throws it in a can next to the toilet, not in it. I’m still delighting in drinking water from a tap. It’s a luxury I’ll never take for granted.

My girlfriend knew I’d struggle with the transition. She picked me up in a friend’s rickety 1997 rusted-out Dodge pick-up. I love her to death for that move!

Loss of complete autonomy of my life is the biggest hurdle I’m overcoming. I had 100% control of my schedule on the trip. Everything I did was to keep the bike moving forward.

Advice to Others

Q: Can you share some words of wisdom for others planning a similar trek?

A: Sure, I’ll list them:

  1. Be gracious.
  2. Never barter. You can afford it. (See #1.)
  3. Know the pleasantries in the country’s language. Knowing 10-20 words will go a long way. I was only moderately fluent in Spanish.
  4. Rainy season is no joke. 2pm is dry. 3pm will be pouring.
  5. Preparation is helpful, but not necessary. We saw people biking across Mexico with discount store backpacks zip tied to $200 bikes.
  6. You don’t need a lot of money.
  7. People are amazing and innovative
  8. All is possible, yet reminding yourself of that is the hardest part.

familyReflecting back on his trip, Robert would like to thank his parents for taking him on family trips and exposing him to what life was like for Americans living outside North Dakota. “Once I got a taste of that, there was no looking back.”

While he cherishes the experiences and memories of his adventure, Robert’s favorite place to be today is alongside his girlfriend in their cramped kitchen. No words are needed while floating around one another in the tight spaces while creating a vegetarian meal. His Central American adventures changed him and his approach to life. He’s eager, receptive and empathetic and he’d tell his younger self to relax and take some time for self-care.

What did you learn about travel and yourself from reading about Robert’s adventure?

Linda Leier Thomason is a former CEO who writes freelance business and travel stories, along with feature articles. Her work experiences include a Fortune 500 corporation, federal government, entrepreneurship and small business. Find out more about Linda by clicking the “Meet Linda” tab above. Interested in working together? Complete this form below. Would you have the courage to bike across foreign countries? Comment below.

 

©Copyright. September 2016. Linda Leier Thomason

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Dr. Hoiberg-50 Years- 3 Sons-Much Success

isuEric O. Hoiberg was the second person I met in Ames, Iowa after parking my loaded, four-door, silver Plymouth Fury. The residence hall director was the first. Eric was my student advisor. I was a seemingly lost transfer student alone in a new town on a campus with a student body nearing the population of my home state of North Dakota.

To this day I recall the feeling of optimism and assurance I had leaving his office that August afternoon. I sensed I’d graduate as a Cyclone. I believed I’d succeed in the so-called real world post-graduation. He left me with the impression he believed in me, so I did in myself.

I received both my undergraduate and graduate degrees from Iowa State University (ISU) under his guidance.

Eric

Dr. Eric O. Hoiberg-an inspirational figure.

Die-Hard Cyclone

Hoiberg is a dedicated, loyal Iowa State University Cyclone, except for the fact that he earned 3 degrees (BA, MA, and Ph.D) at the University of Nebraska in Lincoln (UNL).  He spent 21 years as a Sociology faculty member and advisor for and coordinator of the Public Service and Administration (PSA) program. Before retiring, he was promoted to, and spent 11 years as, the Associate Dean for Academic Affairs in the College of Agriculture. Hoiberg returned to ISU twice after retirement. Once to create an alumni program. Next as the Interim Associate Provost while a search was being conducted.

European Influence

Eric’s upbringing greatly influenced him. Born in Fayette, Missouri, he and his three older brothers and homemaker mother, accompanied his father to Germany directly after World War II during the Berlin Airlift. There his father, a rural sociologist, worked with the Reconstruction effort helping churches cope with the Holocaust and other ravages of war. The family returned to Europe several years later when his father directed a group establishing Turkey’s first Land Grant University. The family traveled extensively throughout the Muslim country, expanding Hoiberg’s view of the world. However, he also developed a deep appreciation for the lifestyle and subculture of farmers and small towns where many of his extended family members resided. This combination of academic readiness and world-wide vision made him an ideal university employee.

Researcher

His doctoral research at UNL was published in the esteemed American Sociological Review and centered on creating a new methodology for assessing neighborhood and community structure and change. A comprehensive survey of 700 Iowa farm families, which provided a baseline for the state of agriculture in Iowa in the 1970’s, was his first research venture at ISU. Eric also conducted research on farmers’ adoptions of new technologies and techniques, particularly environmental practices. And, he was part of a national research team that studied a series of six rural communities across the country, originally studied by the USDA in 1940. His team examined change over the roughly 50-year period.

Despite this nationally recognized research, Eric cites the growth of the PSA program as his most valued career accomplishment. “I took over the program in its infancy and grew it into a strong program attracting excellent students who went on to do some good in society.”

One of those students, Renny Olhava Crawford shared “I remember sitting in his class my sophomore year. By this time, I’d already changed my major 4 times. As I was listening to the lecture, all I could think was – I love this!  I need to talk to him and learn how I can get more into this. So, I found a reason to go arrange a meeting, some question on an assignment, I believe.  After “clearing” up my question, I just told him, “I really love everything we are going over in this class-how do I study more about this?” I think his response was “Well maybe you need to look into PSA”.  He told me more. That afternoon I changed my major-and probably my life.”

Fellow PSA graduate John Bahr added, “Eric is one of the three key male figures who influenced my life. His guidance and insight helped me graduate from Iowa State. As a result, I learned discipline and gained academic confidence, which helped me to achieve personal and professional success.”

These Kids Now Days

Eric’s attitude and approach while working with students earned him numerous advising and teaching awards. He felt responsible to place curriculum in context so students gain an appreciation for the why and wherefore of courses they’re required to take. “There must be a link between the curriculum and the world of work they’ll be entering.”

He enjoyed students stopping by after a lecture to discuss how ideas/examples in class applied in their own lives. “This kind of discussion invariably increased my own understanding of the topic and reinforced that education is truly a two-way street.” And, he was frustrated when students focused solely on grades and test scores rather than understanding and communicating subject matter and applying it to their lives. “Evaluation is an important part of the educational process, but it shouldn’t be the only one.”

Over time he saw 3 key indicators that predicted student success: One, leadership experience in high school. “If a student came to PSA with extensive FFA experience, I could almost guarantee they’d be successful upon graduation.” Two, strong communication skills, and Three, a love for learning, indicated by a high level of intellectual curiosity and exploration. Today’s students also need a sound grasp of technical skills.

Hoiberg FamilyHoiberg Family

In addition to guiding and advising countless ISU students, Eric and his wife, Karen, who just celebrated 50 years of marriage, raised three boys: Steve, Fred and Andrew. Today, they also enjoy the company of 8 grandchildren. “My greatest sense of pride comes from my children and grandchildren. I revel in their accomplishments, both big and small. They’re each unique in their own way but also integral parts of our family unit.” Fred, the wildly popular former ISU basketball player and coach, has struggled publicly with heart conditions. “His concerns have strengthened our family. We all recognize life is fragile and we should be thankful for the gifts we have.”

Eric and KarenOne of those gifts is time together in Northern Minnesota-Eric’s favorite getaway. Now fully retired, he and Karen enjoy the spontaneity of life while he’s tirelessly working on becoming a scratch golfer. “It doesn’t seem to be happening.”

Compassionate, Curious, Understanding-that’s my college Advisor-Eric O. Hoiberg.

Proud to know him and deeply grateful for his influence on my life.

Share with ISU Cyclones and others who know Professor Hoiberg.

Feel free to leave your comments for Eric below.

At an event honoring Dr. Eric O. Hoiberg during the Bacon Fest on the campus of Iowa State University on October 7, 2017. Still an inspiration and mentor to many, including me.

Linda Leier Thomason is a former CEO who writes freelance business and travel stories, along with feature articles. Her work experiences include a Fortune 500 corporation, federal government, entrepreneurship and small business. Find out more about Linda by clicking the “Meet Linda” tab above. Interested in working together? Complete this form below.

©Copyright. August 2016. Linda Leier Thomason

All Rights Reserved.

1 Weekend of 8 Great Omaha Firsts

An Omaha Weekend to Remember

It was a weekend unlike any of the past 52. There was music, a toast, physical activity and a picnic. Also a hamburger, a priest and hail. And, shoes. Yes, disintegrating shoes.

This year I’ve committed to making time for more celebrations. Celebrating not just special occasions, but milestones. It’s not a New Year’s resolution. I’ve finally come to realize that joy matters. I’ve spent a lot of time working and ignoring milestones. Instead, I rushed to the next one without recognizing the success just achieved.

This past weekend our family experienced 8 firsts in Omaha. I understand it’s probably best to space these experiences out, but sometimes that’s just the way things work out. The difference was I actually lived in each of the moments. That’s a first too, probably the best first of the weekend!

Diana Ross

dianaI’m a Motown girl. Sure, I enjoy all types of music, but there’s something about Motown’s beats and melodies that resonate with my soul. When Ken asked if I’d like to attend our first Omaha concert by taking advantage of half-priced tickets to Diana Ross’s Friday night sold-out concert, my response was immediate and affirmative. “Of course, yes, thank you!” How could I possibly pass up the chance to be serenaded by the founding member and lead singer of the Supremes? The fact that’s she’s 72 was completely lost to my overwhelming desire to hear and sway to “Ain’t No Mountain High Enough,” “Upside Down,” and 75 minutes of other recognizable hits.

All week we looked forward to sitting in downtown Omaha’s magnificent Orpheum Theater for the first time.  We were excited for our date night and wanted to be respectful of Diva Diana. Ken donned slacks with a long-sleeved, collared shirt and I wore a floor-length summertime dress with wedge heels. Until I didn’t.

Shoes

My first Omaha embarrassing moment happened when opening the car door and stepping onto the searing pavement. I felt a bit off-balance, but grabbed Ken’s hand to make our way across the street. He’s my rock. He centers me. However, the more steps we took, the more I felt like I was tipping over. This sensation isn’t that unusual with the scoliosis curves I carry. But when I looked down and saw a portion of my shredded right wedge heel on the sidewalk, I knew this was greater than spinal curves. Oh Dear! Cork was dropping with each step.

I had a choice to make: Carry on like nothing was happening, turn around and go home, or quickly try to find a shoe store. Without flinching, I chose the shoefirst. I’d go barefoot before missing a Diana Ross concert. By the time I got to the Orpheum restroom, the left shoe heel was also ¾ shredded. Sitting on the stool, I examined both shoes and laughed aloud at the timing of their implosion. Rarely do I wear heels; these expired before I did. I slipped the “flats” back on, exited the restroom, grabbed Ken’s hand and strutted up to our balcony seats. During this entire journey,  I only heard one person utter, “Well, that’s interesting!” Yup. It was.  Despite the shoe calamity, our first Omaha concert was fantastic.

Hamburger

dinkWe ate our first Dinker’s hamburgers on Saturday. Alex, our 21-year-old son who’s here for a summer internship, has been touting this landmark restaurant. Apparently several co-workers frequent the Polish neighborhood eatery and have been lobbying him to as well. Dinker’s didn’t disappoint. After placing orders at the counter, we bellied up to the bar and enjoyed cold beverages with mouth-watering burgers, fries and onion rings. [I had the kiddie burger-more than enough for me.] It felt great to patronize a local establishment with a long family owned history.

Homily

priestWe heard our first homily from newly ordained (June 4, 2016) Father Tobias “Toby” Letak at Saturday evening’s mass at St. James.  Now I know I’m old. Father looks like a kid. He is one. However, watching him say Mass and deliver his homily, I marveled at his deep faith and gift of communication. It will be a joy to support and watch him grow as a church leader and priest. What a great vocational role model for the youth as well.

Champagne Toast

toastSaturday was a year that we moved into our Omaha home. After Mass, I gathered the Thomason men, poured Sparkling Grape Cider into champagne flutes and then we lifted glasses in a toast of gratitude. If you’ve read any of our family’s journey getting to Omaha and into a home, you understand the sentiment behind the toast. It was needed and deserved. Here’s to many more memories in this home!

Hail

Our neighborhood received significant hail in May while we were traveling in the Pacific Northwest and Canada. We obviously didn’t hear or see the hail. The insurance adjuster and seven contractors who’ve been here declared our roof, gutters and window sashes totaled. We are experiencing our first hail claim and house repairs after living here less than a year. Sunday morning, we sat down and put contractor data, by variables, into a spreadsheet to determine who to hire. We are predictably analytical and thorough in our research. It’s who we are. We know this methodology doesn’t work for all, but it always has for us. Let the roofing and other repairs begin.

Basketball

bbSunday was 20 degrees cooler than the previous week where record-setting temperatures soared over 100 degrees. It was a bit much despite our heat and humidity conditioning from decades of living in the Deep South. Like most, we stayed mostly indoors last week. So Sunday, when it was cooler, we felt like escaped convicts and completely overdid it. First, Ken and I walked two miles at Standing Bear Lake. Next, we got Alex and, for the first time, used the basketball court at Hillsborough Park.

Recreational activities are something the three of us joyfully share together. In fact, in Alex’s youth, most Saturdays Ken took him to the grassy common area in the front of our Charleston, SC neighborhood with a trunk full of sporting equipment. It warmed my soul to see them bond while throwing, kicking and putting.  It’s not much different today with the exception of more competitiveness and ribbing. The togetherness and competition still warm my aging soul, though these activities are not as kind on my joints and bones.

Picnic

picnicGoing to our first parish picnic capped off an eventful weekend. Our previous experiences have mostly involved pot-luck events. Not here! A team grilled pork loins and hot dogs, some cooked potatoes and corn, while others deep-fried squash and onions. There also were cookies and melons. A DJ played background tunes, including many Diana Ross hits.  Kids enjoyed a variety of carnival-like games and inflatables. Adults were in the Parish Center playing Bingo in the air-conditioning while others were managing the cake walk outside the church entrance. It was a festive event and one we will return to, for certain.

A weekend is 48 hours. We experienced 8 firsts in Omaha during this time and each was memorable in its own way.

I lived each moment, making each experience more joyful. Another first worth repeating.

©Copyright. July 2016. Linda Leier Thomason

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SD Attorney Strikes Balance in Life

Jim M. Wiederrich-36 Year South Dakota Attorney

I’m starting a new series of feature interviews. These people have inspired and/or intrigued me for years. I’ve always wanted to know what drives them and how they’ve “hauled rocks” in their own lives to create meaningful personal and professional lives.


jheadshotMy family and I met Jim in 2013 as participants in the South Dakota Technology Center’s Accelerator Program (Today known as Zeal.).  Jim and a team of lawyers presented business law subject matter during a day’s session.  Having just relocated to Sioux Falls, South Dakota from Charleston, South Carolina,  we were instantly drawn to his demeanor and presence, which fondly reminded us of many Southern statesmen. It was clear he was respected by his peers and admired by those in attendance. Driving home from the day’s session, I recall our family talking about the impression Jim made and telling 18-year-old Alex to follow Jim’s approach to life-one of balance and fairness. Both Ken and I knew Jim would be an ideal role model, even if Alex didn’t choose to practice law. The way  Jim navigated life and interacted with others mirrored our wish for Alex.

Introducing Jim…Hard working, Intelligent & Fair

JimJim has been a South Dakota practicing attorney for 36 years. He and his wife, Karri, are the proud parents of three beautiful, grown daughters: Anne, Lynn and Sara, whom he’s always encouraged to “get good grades, find a great job and build guest quarters for their parents.”

Educational Interests Led to Law School

Jim was raised on a farm south of Tripp, SD and for eight years attended a Bon Homme County one-room country school without running water or indoor plumbing. His favorite elementary school subject was South Dakota history.

Jim enjoyed high school accounting classes and participating on the debate team. As a Tripp High School junior he decided to become a lawyer.

With the encouragement of his parents, he attended the University of South Dakota and earned a BS in accounting (1977), followed by an MBA (1980) and then a Juris Doctorate (1980). He treasures memories of collegiate apartment life, living with three other business majors. And from his college years, he developed a deep appreciation for professors who brought real-life experience to their classrooms. When thinking back on his pre-law-practice days, he remembers them with “a whole lot less responsibility than one carries as an attorney looking out for the best interests of one’s clients.”

After his 1980 graduation, Jim became an associate at Woods, Fuller, Shultz & Smith®, P.C. in Sioux Falls, South Dakota. Three years later, he became a shareholder and Board of Directors member of the same firm, where he remains today.

 Practice of Law Over Time

For more than three decades, Jim’s greatest joy as an attorney comes when a client successfully completes creation of a new company or the acquisition of one. “Either way, new jobs are created, and hopefully profits for the owners.”

His most valued career accomplishment was the organization of all of the  POET ethanol plants and operating companies. This included the purchase of real estate, development of construction contracts and marketing and licensing arrangements for 27 operating plants and a dozen operating companies. “These entities have provided thousands of jobs, lessened our dependence on foreign oil and created great wealth for investors.”

As one who wishes to be remembered as an outstanding business practitioner who understood how to negotiate a fair deal and provide great advice to clients on how to manage legal risks, Jim gets frustrated by lawyers not skilled in areas in which they are practicing. “As a result, they take positions that are unreasonable because they don’t have the background and experience to negotiate a fair and reasonable result for their client and mine.”

Jim’s seen plenty of changes in 36 years of practicing law but none greater than the government’s over-regulation of business. “Millions of new laws, ordinances and regulations have been enacted that drive up the cost of doing business beyond what is necessary to protect the public.” Regarding new law school graduates and changes over time, Jim says new graduates are more technologically proficient, which is great for efficiency. However, he cautions that reliance on the Internet, texting and social media can be misleading. “Nothing beats establishing long-term personal relationships through face-to-face interaction.”

Active Community Participant

One of the many benefits of Jim’s career is being able to be actively involved in the growth and development of the Sioux Falls community and surrounding region. Knowing he’s making a difference in the lives of people in the community matters to him. Currently, he’s concerned about the lack of affordable housing in Sioux Falls and providing adequate support to education and access to affordable health care in South Dakota.

Jim strongly believes every member of the Sioux Falls community should be involved in the local United Way and other volunteer activities. He holds the belief that community is made best when businesses, non-profits and governmental agencies coordinate and participate together.

As a man committed to his God, his family, his country and his firm, Jim serves on numerous boards within his church, his church denomination, a local hospital, Chamber of Commerce, United Way and non-profit social service agencies. He’s chosen to make time for these organizations because they provide spiritual care, help local individuals provide for their families and become self-sufficient, and grow the economic base which provides jobs for all in the work force.

In 2014 Jim was awarded the prestigious David Birkeland Memorial award for his community involvement.

Role Model

Jim understands the value of mentorship and role models for young professionals. Just as we tagged him as a role model or mentor for our son, Alex, Jim’s also had a mentor in his life: Judge Stuart Tiede who practiced at Woods Fuller prior to his 2001 appointment to the Second Judicial Circuit Court in South Dakota. “Stuart was truly a student of the law and did not settle for an adequate answer, but always the right answer to the problem at hand.”

Balance in Life + Final Thoughts

Mound of colorJim strives to achieve balance in his life between work and play. It’s likely most don’t know his favorite free time activity is flower gardening, that his favorite place today is vacationing on Maui, Hawaii or that he’s eager to visit Australia.

He’d like his legacy for his girls to be that he put his family’s needs first, had great judgement and compassion and was always available to listen or provide advice when asked. And, he’d like to thank his wife for managing the household while he spent considerable time devoted to the practice of law and volunteering in the community.

In spite of his busy career and heavy volunteer schedule, he never missed his children’s activities or time with his spouse. Remarkable priorities and balance.

Great Father. Devoted Husband. Outstanding Citizen. Accomplished Attorney. Role Model and Mentor: Jim Wiederrich.

 Share with those blessed to know and work with Jim and those who could learn from his choices in life.

Linda Leier Thomason is a former CEO who writes freelance business and travel stories, along with feature articles. Her work experiences include a Fortune 500 corporation, federal government, entrepreneurship and small business. Find out more about Linda by clicking the “Meet Linda” tab above. Interested in working together? Complete this form below.

 

©Copyright. June 2016. Linda Leier Thomason

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Retired Ohio State Cardiologist with a Big Grateful Heart

from camera Introducing Uncle Carl

Who can fault retired cardiologist Carl Leier for choosing ‘home’ as his favorite place to be? After sacrificing considerable personal time during 36 1/2 years of practice, today when he and Jolene, his wife of 46 years, leave home, they travel across the country visiting their three children: Rachel, Andrew and Joseph, and two grandsons Owen and Grant.

Learning from Monks

Carl was raised in rural Napoleon, North Dakota, attending a one-room country school until enrolling in Minnesota’s St. John’s Prep School (1958-1962). The monks there made an enormous impact on his life. They taught him how to prioritize activity, inculcated a work ethic that began with his ND German farm life, and instilled the philosophy that through focus and hard work all goals and things were attainable. Through their guidance, Carl excelled in academics and almost everything he did, including football and wrestling. He gives full credit to the monks for introducing him to the spirit and merits of competitive sports. He richly used these years before becoming a doctor to prepare for the years that followed.

graduation enhancedBecoming a Cardiologist

Carl earned both his college and medical degrees at Creighton University in Omaha, Nebraska. He chose cardiology as his specialty while serving as Medical and Chief Resident at Ohio State University (OSU) in Columbus, Ohio. He credits his parents, the former Carl and Mary Leier, for delivering an enormous work ethic and offering both personal and financial support while pursuing his degree. Afterall, “unless you’re born with a ‘silver spoon in your mouth’, a work ethic is the key ingredient to success in any field. Brilliance is helpful, but it only takes you so far.”

A brief encounter with hometown physician, the former Dr. Edwin Goodman, who gave Carl a shot as a youngster to quickly cure his sore throat, also played a role in his career choice. “I was overwhelmingly impressed with him and medicine, in general, from then on. It’s simply amazing what a five-minute contact and interaction can do for one’s life.”

Preparing for an Academic Institution

Carl’s life has been saturated with bright, intelligent and kind people who have influenced his career. However, none has had greater impact than Robert Heaney, MD, an esteemed Creighton University faculty member.

Dr. Heaney allowed Carl to work in his research lab during undergraduate and medical school years. This side-by-side interaction taught Carl the excitement of doing research, publishing results and thriving in an academic arena. “Dr. Heaney also happens to be one of the most brilliant people I’ve ever worked with.”

Carl found much joy and excitement in his own work. His greatest joy came when patients improved clinically, and did well. But he also celebrated getting manuscripts published in major journals and securing research grant funding-both hallmarks of academic institutions, where independent research is required.

uncle carl jacketLeading & Thriving at Ohio State University

Since 1976, Carl has spent his professional life at Big 10 University, Ohio State, where one of his career highlights was serving for 12 years as the Director of the Division of Cardiology. As a leader, he reached back to his athletic years at St. John’s Prep and club soccer teams at Creighton University to create a culture in his cardiology department where members developed an attitude of winning, understood the importance of team work and created strategies to achieve such. He coached his “team” to success.

At OSU he tirelessly worked to uncover the pharmacology and mechanisms of Dobutamine. Today, this widely used drug enhances cardiac function when the heart fails to function as needed He is widely published in the areas of heart failure and cardiac transplantation.

Coaching Future Doctors

Carl enjoyed teaching students and trainees at all levels and loved being surrounded by, and working with, brilliant, professional people. In fact, the greatest change he’s seen in medical students through his years is “they are smarter, which is great for the profession because they’re better able and prepared to handle the enormous amount of information in all phases of medicine.” He advises anyone interested in a career in medicine to:

  • Study your butt off-the field is extremely competitive. Unless your GPA is at least a 3.8, you might need to try another field.
  • Take some business classes.
  • Do some extracurricular activities to override the impression you’re a book nerd. Continue some of your own major interests to keep balance in your life.
  • Never lose, and continue to develop, a kind personality and an indispensable character, which will serve you well throughout your career.

Reflecting on Progress of Medicine

Looking back, Carl says the greatest change he’s seen in cardiology patients  is increasing age. In the 1960s-70s, it was unusual to see patients in their 80s; now 95-100 years of age is commonplace. The technological advances in cardiology over the past five decades have also been astounding.

When he was a medical student (1965-1969), electrocardiograms (EKG) and chest x-rays were used to diagnose cardiac disease. Today, cardiac catheterization, magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), genetic markers and analyses, and other methods are used to approach cardiac disease; surgical and medical treatments follow closely behind. These advances and application of preventative measures explain the improved survival rate and increasing age of our population.

Preventive measures like proper diet, exercise to stay in physical and mental shape, and avoidance of substance abuse all factor in one’s longevity and heart health.

Feeling Grateful

Carl is grateful for being able to pursue a rewarding and satisfying career in medicine. And, like many, he hopes he’s made a positive difference in people’s lives. Now retired, he can spend more time focusing on the personal elements of his life and participate in activities he enjoys, like reading history, visiting historical sites throughout the country, traveling, sketching and painting. And, then there’s always the kids and grandchildren to visit.

Well done Uncle Carl. Well done.

SHARE with anyone interested in a career in medicine, who’s extended their life through Uncle Carl’s research and practice, and those who find joy in others’ success.

Linda Leier Thomason is a former CEO who writes freelance business and travel stories, along with feature articles. Her work experiences include a Fortune 500 corporation, federal government, entrepreneurship and small business. Find out more about Linda by clicking the “Meet Linda” tab above. Interested in working together? Complete this form below.

 

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Stroke Awareness Month- Act F.A.S.T.

strokeMAY IS AMERICAN STROKE MONTH. While stroke threatens millions of lives, it is largely preventable, treatable and beatable. Together, we can end stroke.

My family has a history of suffering and dying from strokes. Five of my mother’s sisters had strokes; most died from them. My paternal grandparents also suffered from strokes. I’m concerned. Are you?

“Stroke Awareness Month” is a great time to refresh yourself on the warning signs and to learn about the personal impact of having a stroke.

Here are some  sobering statistics on US data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

  •  Stroke is the 3rd leading cause of death-140,000+ people die annually.
  • High blood pressure is the most important risk factor for stroke.
  • Stroke is the leading cause of serious, long-term disability.
  • Approximately 795,000 people suffer a stroke annually. About 600,000 of these are first attacks, and 185,000 are recurrent attacks.
  • Nearly 3/4 of all strokes happen in people aged 65+. The risk of having a stroke more than doubles each decade after the age of 55.
  • Strokes can and do occur at any age. Nearly 1/4 occur in people under the age of 65.
  • African-Americans have a higher stroke death rate than whites, even at younger ages.
  • Someone in the United States has a stroke every 40 seconds, on average.
  • Smoking increases chances for a stroke and atrial fibrillation (AF) is an independent risk factor for stroke, increasing risk about 5 times.

barbara todayBarbara bravely shares her story about having and recovering from a stroke. She wants you to be informed and prepared. She felt unprepared.

If you’re recovering from a stroke, let her struggle and story inspire you. Know we wish you well on your recovery journey. If you’d like to reach out to Barbara, contact me.

January 8, 2015

Barbara went about her usual morning routine preparing to play music for Sunday mass. Only this day she was dizzy with a headache and had weak legs. She found herself bumping into walls because she couldn’t walk a straight line. Since she started feeling “fluish” already on Friday, she brushed it off as flu weakness. Afterall, it was the height of flu season. Sunday night her voice became incoherent and her husband called 911.

Even while being transported to the hospital, Barbara didn’t realize she’d had a stroke. She wasn’t showing what she considered two classic stroke symptoms: facial drooping or impaired vision. At the hospital a  CAT scan was normal but a MRI showed she’d had a brain stem stroke.

Barbara spent two days in ICU and later learned her dominant right side was no longer working.

Wants to Die

She grieved losing the use of her right hand. The one she usually relied on for guitar picking, piano playing, gripping her cherished violin bow, typing, brushing her teeth and combing her hair; and driving. She loved the insurance business she’d built with her husband and cherished their travel adventures. Upon waking up in ICU, all of these perceived losses were overwhelming. She admits she briefly gave up and wanted to be taken to Oregon, where physician assisted suicide is legal, and die.

Rehab

before strokeSoon Barbara had a change of heart and was determined to get well again, at whatever cost. Music and grandchildren drove her recovery. She needed to hold her year-old grandson and play hide-and-seek with her 7-year-old twin grandchildren. She definitely longed to play guitar at Sunday mass. After a month in the hospital, Barbara began 12 months of three therapies. Occupational therapy lasted a year. Physical therapy 9 months and speech therapy 6 months.

Today

Barbara’s determination and ability to work hard to achieve what seemed like an insurmountable goal is commendable and applause worthy.

“I am so much better after 15 months. I cannot write with my right hand so I type with my left.” While not yet “up to speed” with her violin or classical piano, she can strum the guitar just fine and is back playing at Sunday mass. “I can’t do any fancy picking yet.”

She’s returned to work with 90 percent of her speech back, explaining to customer groups that she’s a stroke survivor. Eight months post stroke, her foot gave out and broke in four places. Learning to be less self-conscious about her limp is a work-in-progress.

6 months post stroke barbaraBarbara is eternally grateful for the love and support of her husband, family and friends as well as the devotion and care from her neurologist and therapists. Understandably, she’s much more in touch with her mortality.

She was a healthy, thriving woman who was vigilant about annual checkups. Physicians had not warned her about the possibility of having a stroke because she didn’t have any of the risk factors.

She had quit smoking decades ago, rarely drank and was not overweight. Nor did she have high blood pressure. Both parents passed away from cancer, not strokes.

Still, Barbara suffered a stroke.

Barbara would like you to know

  1. Seemingly perfect health does not make you immune to stroke.
  2. Flu like symptoms, especially affecting your knees or legs, need immediate attention.
  3. Just because your parents didn’t suffer a stroke doesn’t mean you can’t.

Become familiar with the sudden symptoms of stroke.

Recognize Stroke Symptoms & Act Fast

F.-Face drooping. Ask person to smile. Does face droop?

A.Arm weakness. Ask person to raise both arms. Does one hang downward?

S.-Speech difficulty. Ask person to repeat phrase. Is speech slurred?

T.Time to call 911. Check the time so you know when the 1st symptoms appeared. Get emergency medical help ASAP.

Save a life. Share this with loved ones and friends today.

Download Stroke App

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Sioux City Stinks: That’s What You Think

 4 Hours Changed My Opinion

snarkyCan I be snarky?
Since relocating to the Midwest seven years ago and commuting regularly between our first home in Sioux Falls, SD and our new home in Omaha, NE, we’ve skirted by Sioux City, Iowa on I-29 endless times. It was hard to do more than just get through there. Roadway construction is ever-present. It used to smell. Then it flooded. More recently the city decided to pick a fight with SD about using speed cameras to capture South Dakotans in a hurry to get past Sioux City. It was hard to love Sioux City, almost impossible to stop.
That all changed recently when our son, who’s attending USD in Vermillion, SD, suggested we meet in Sioux City rather than drive the additional 40 miles to his doorstep. If you read my January post (Parenting tab) “I Spent New Year’s Eve with a New Man”, you’d understand his suggestion. I’m no dummy. I knew it was more about protecting his personal space than saving us an additional 80 miles. But, that’s okay. We were gathering as a family, and that was the point.
Our meeting was decided rather quickly. None of us relished sitting in a chain restaurant looking at one another for half a day, so I did what I do for most family outings. I logged on to the Convention & Visitor’s Bureau (CVB) website. If you’re unfamiliar with CVBs, you’re missing out on the best local information in any community-large or small. And, much to my surprise, Sioux City appeared rather diverse and quite appealing, at least as portrayed on the CVB website. I was a bit stunned. I was curious.
I went through the “What to Do” and “Attractions” tabs and felt a bit of remorse for neglecting Sioux City all these years, and let’s be quite honest, for also saying some less than flattering things about it. I take it all back. Every single word, well, except the part about the city bullying SD for speeder revenue.

We had a half day to enjoy one another’s company in Sioux City.

Here’s what we did.
4 Hours + 4 Attractions
1.  Trinity Heights
maryThe city was hosting the NAIA Division II Women’s Basketball tournament, thus we avoided the more familiar attractions along I-29. And because it’s Lenten season, we started our day at Trinity Heights, which opens at 9am.
Breathtakingly peaceful is the best descriptor of this place. We were the only visitors, except for flocks of returning birds who serenaded us on this crisp, cool Saturday morning. Though Catholic in theology, this location clearly appeals to all. The grounds are immaculate, the statues massive and outdoor Cathedral areas inviting. Surprisingly, many Sioux City residents we met were unfamiliar with this peaceful place. Admission is free and donations accepted. There also is an adoration chapel onsite.
2. Billy Boy Drive Thru
Billy BoyThis much beloved local hamburger joint did not disappoint. Filled with character and what appeared to be a recent remodel, the half-century old restaurant offers great food at a very fair price. What did not go unnoticed was the Dairy Queen right next door to this locally owned place that had a line of cars in the drive thru all during the lunch hour. There’s a reason it’s been around for over 50 years. Try it out.  Get in line. You’ll be able to read the menu choices easily from the massive menu board. Inside dining is available. Check out the wash basin in the restroom. Super cool!
3.Dorothy Pecaut Nature Center
musicCommuning with nature is my idea of perfection; this despite severe allergies to most insects and plants. So severe indeed that I carry an EpiPen® and visit emergency rooms regularly for allergic reactions. Undeterred by warnings, I never miss visiting natural settings in new locations. And, I’d never miss the chance to stop here again. All of their well-designed marketing materials feature children interacting with the exhibits and enjoying the grounds. We all are considered legal adults yet each of us maximized every moment here. The interactive exhibits are the best I’ve seen. They’re well-designed and constructed and educate in a fun way. We swung on the wooden swing, tried to assemble the tree trunk puzzle, studied turtle anatomy, peered through binoculars and learned much about Loess Hills. We even presented a wind song chimes concert in the play area out back. Admission is free. Go. Be a kid again. Commune with nature. Learn something new.
4. Riverside Park
gameWe passed this park on the way to lunch and decided to stop in after the Nature Center and before leaving town. On such a beautiful early March Saturday, it was well used, but we still found enough space to enjoy a competitive game of Bocce . We also threw football and Frisbee and ended our day with the traditional UNO match, despite the impending rainstorm and increasing winds. Admission is free. This park is easily accessible from I-29.

We’re likely to visit these attractions during our next gathering in Sioux City:

Sioux City Arts Center
Latham Park
Sioux City Public Museum
Sioux City Lewis & Clark Interpretive Center

Fourth Street Historic District

Log on to The Sioux City Convention & Visitors Bureau site. Plan your day or weekend there. Share what you did by listing it in the box below. I’ll add it to our next visit.

Share this article with anyone planning a trip, especially a day trip from South Dakota, Iowa or Nebraska. They will thank you, as do I.

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Beauty Queen Conquers Nashville Only to Suffer Loss

Georgia Bedwell portraitGeorgia Becker Bedwell has packed a lot of living into her life. The 1972 Miss North Dakota traveled the world, married twice, raised a son, lived and worked in Nashville, earned a college certificate, and moved back to North Dakota. Today she’s working full-time and learning to adjust to her life as a widow, something she’d rather not be doing.
Inspiring North Dakotan Musicians
Georgia, the oldest of seven children, was raised in a musical family in Napoleon where she was surrounded by the ever-present sounds of country music on her dad’s radio and stereo. Her high school music teacher, Gene Mosbrucker,  encouraged her to pursue her passion of music. Both saw music as a way for Georgia to fund a college education. When she learned pageants provided scholarships for college, she entered. She won the Miss Kidder County pageant and then Miss North Dakota, including the talent portion, singing the popular, “Rose Garden,” recorded by fellow North Dakotan Lynn Anderson. Like many North Dakotans, Georgia watched Strasburg’s Lawrence Welk on his Saturday night show where Lynn performed regularly. Lynn became Georgia’s inspiration.
georgia homesteadOne Song, Many Opportunities
Georgia’s memorable performances of “Rose Garden” opened many doors for her. After receiving a non-finalist talent scholarship at the Miss America pageant, Georgia joined the Miss America USO tour and was a part of the Miss America pageant production the following year. Tom Bryant, a fellow Napoleon High School graduate who worked at Nashville’s WSM (AM) radio, home of The Grand Old Opry-the world’s longest running radio program, shared a tape of Georgia’s performance, landing her an invitation to perform there in 1973. Shortly thereafter she moved to Nashville and began a career in country music.
Garth CMA Horizon AwardCountry Music Career Takes Off
Georgia worked in the country music show at Opryland USA where she met two other female vocalists who together later became Roy Clark’s backup singers. Besides working many television shows like the Tonight Show, Tony Orlando and Dawn, Dinah Shore and the Merv Griffin show, in 1976 the group accompanied Roy on a cultural exchange tour to the former Soviet Union. They also toured the entire USA and Canada. After leaving Roy, the group returned to Opryland USA with their own show called “Three of a Kind.” In addition, Georgia started singing on writer’s demos; one was released as a single record on an independent label, which led to a second single. She toured with her own show until 1983 when she took a job in record promotion at Capitol Records where she stayed for 14 years. There she experienced the music industry from the inside out.
Georgia helped launch the careers of, and brought home number one records for many artists including, but not limited to, Trace Adkins, Garth Brooks, and Tanya Tucker.
Georgia acknowledges that today’s music industry has changed. Success still depends on one’s own determination and being a songwriter still separates one apart from others. However, playlists are tighter and now consultants rather than markets pick music. Her favorite performers include icons Garth, Reba and George and the song she often sings to herself is one written by Rodney Crowell and originally recorded by Emmylou Harris, “Till I Gain Control Again.”

Her husband of 22 years, Byron L. Bedwell, III, played this song on his guitar while she sang. She misses that, and him.
Me, Trent & ByronLove Hurts
Georgia’s life partner, Byron, was diagnosed with gastrointestinal cancer in February 2015 and died July 17, 2015. It’s her greatest heartache and one she’s learning to cope with today. She understands her life has been blessed and continues to be blessed. But, if she had a magic wand, she’d wish for Byron to return so they could grow old together. Like many who’ve lost a loved one, Georgia feels like a piece of her is missing and she’s working hard to figure out how to become a whole person again.

Next Chapter
Georgia recently finished college classes and earned a human resources certification she’s using at her Bismarck bank job. She knows it’s never too late to change “horses and find a new career.” She understands that all of us have the choice to be who we want to be and that it is up to us to make it happen. Georgia also serves on the Board of Directors for the Miss North Dakota Scholarship Organization as their talent coordinator. She continues to promote the pageant as a source of scholarship funds for young women.
She cites her greatest accomplishment as her wonderful son, Trent, whom she wishes she lived nearer to. Her greatest joy originates from sharing her heart and faith and from caring for others who may need her help. More than anything, she wishes to be remembered for that loving and giving heart. She longs for her parents to be with her for many years ahead and wishes she could thank her deceased Grandma Johanna Mitzel for teaching her the value of loving unconditionally.
verseMore than ever she’s living by her favorite verse “Walk by faith not by sight. 2 Corinthians 5:7.

Still a beauty. Still a talent. Back in North Dakota. Georgia Becker Bedwell.
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Miss North Dakota Becomes Miss America 2018

Georgia is on the Board of Directors and the Talent Coordinator for the Miss North Dakota organization. In September 2017, Cara Mund, Miss North Dakota was crowned Miss America 2018. Congratulations to all!

Linda Leier Thomason is a former CEO who writes freelance business and travel stories, along with feature articles. Her work experiences include a Fortune 500 corporation, federal government, entrepreneurship and small business. Find out more about Linda by clicking the “Meet Linda” tab above. Interested in working together? Complete this form below.

 

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Navigating Decades of Depression & Anxiety

Major depression is one of the most common mental disorders in the United States. (National Institute of Mental Health) More than 1 out of 20 Americans 12 years of age and older reported current depression in 2005–2006.(Pratt LA, Brody DJ. Depression in the United States household population, 2005–2006. NCHS Data Brief. 2008(7):1–8.)

Here One Brave Follower Shares Her Struggles With Anxiety & Depression. If you have a story you’d like to share, contact me. Linda

depChildhood Illness Shakes Family of 8
I am the youngest of six children raised by a RN mother and draftsman father. At age eight, I suddenly became ill with three debilitating autoimmune disorders: Juvenile rheumatoid arthritis, scleroderma and Raynaud’s phenomenon. These diagnoses changed my life forever and disrupted our family dynamic. Today I know these factors are the root cause of my lifelong struggle with depression.
My mother was my lifeline and I developed an unnatural physical and emotional dependency on her to the detriment of my siblings. For example, my sister who is five years older than me had challenges with anxiety and demonstrated symptoms of hypochondria to get attention from our Mom. For many years, Mom and I left home every three months for three days at a time to get me non-traditional treatment at an osteopathic clinic. Thankfully I was able to keep up at school with the help of some amazing teachers.
I missed out on many events, both at school and at home. At family holiday gatherings, I was typically on the couch or in my room. I was spoiled and everyone knew it. We weren’t wealthy so soda pop and cookies were rare, but since I was underweight, my parents bought me any food I requested, hoping I’d eat it and gain weight. One of my brothers was observant enough to understand this and often asked me to request certain food for him. I did.
Because there were no identified treatments for my condition, I was left to battle the challenging symptoms and the accompanying barrage of viral and bacterial illnesses with the aid of my constant companion, my mother. Antibiotics worked for the bacterial infections, but I more frequently had viruses that couldn’t be treated. There were no pharmaceuticals at that time for my autoimmune conditions. There probably are today.
Junior High Challenges
I spent junior high with low self-esteem and a very small circle of friends because I’d become extremely self-conscious of my condition. While my health had improved by this time, my self-image was framed by the previous years of illness, residual health challenges and a telltale facial butterfly rash. I was isolated by the illnesses and only had friends when I wasn’t sick. I’d developed an unhealthy belief I was defective and unworthy. All of this was exacerbated by depression and anxiety challenges that I’ve since learned are associated with autoimmune disease. I was never able to physically participate in gym class activities from second grade forward and without participation I didn’t develop any skill and had physical limitations in my hands and elbows. I missed a lot of school, but kept up enough to get good grades. I was never diagnosed with depression because at this time depression and anxiety conditions were rarely discussed or treated, especially in children. It wasn’t until I was in college that a general practitioner treated me for anxiety. I was given medication I took when I felt I needed it. Even at this age, I continued to lean on my mother for support.
College Obsession for Perfection
In college I became obsessed with the one thing I thought I could control in my life – my grade point average (GPA). Achieving that meant I was good at something, but the resulting stress I placed on myself to get a 4.0 required my taking anti-anxiety medications. Unless I got 100% on all tests and papers, I felt I failed. I beat myself up for less than perfection. This causes depression. I studied a lot. I did date some, but studying and grades were my priorities and certainly there was no play before all studying was complete. I lived at home so I didn’t have the same social experiences that those who lived with other students had. I did start college in the dorms, but I had to work food service to pay my room and board. I had a full class schedule so I went to class and studied and tried to have fun, but I couldn’t handle it physically and got mononucleosis (mono) so I had to withdraw from school to recuperate. That was a real low in my life. I finally felt like I was gaining my independence and my health, once again, prevented me from doing so. I lived at home for the rest of my college career. I was very capable socially with adults, as I spent a lot of time with my parents and their friends. I didn’t do as well with people of my own age. I was unpracticed and self-conscious.
I was anxious and depressed all through college but not enough not to participate in life. I had goals and hope for my future. Good grades gave me the self-esteem to muster through and to enter graduate school.
Never Good Enough
Following graduate school, my measurement of self-worth shifted to achievement in my work and resulting job titles. However, there was never sufficient evidence to convince me I was good enough. The unfulfilled expectations of me resulted in heightened levels of anxiety and depression. At this point in my life I was married (and beginning to feel trapped in the marriage) and working at my first job. My depression led to hyperventilation. I didn’t know that was what was happening. It wasn’t like you see in movies. I couldn’t detect a breathing issue. I just felt like I was going to pass out. After being passed around to several doctors, I was sent to a neurologist, who diagnosed my depression. This is when I was put on an antidepressant that I took for many years. The number, shape and colors of the antidepressant medications changed over the many years to follow as hyperventilation and other symptoms of anxiety and depression escalated. Remember, talk therapy was not mainstream then either. In fact, I didn’t experience this until after my divorce.
Debilitating Hopelessness
A marriage, subsequent divorce, and later the death of my mother, and two reductions-in-force (job losses) resulted in a deepened state of hopelessness and heightened anxiety. My low point was after the second job loss. The first lay off was as bad as I thought it could get, but the second one exceeded the first. I didn’t have the energy or hope to go on. The depression and anxiety became debilitating. I couldn’t do anything but sleep, shake and cry. I ended up in a psychologist’s office and admitted I didn’t want to live. I wasn’t suicidal per se, but I simply had no hope for a future. She referred me to an inpatient depression program. It really didn’t help me. What I needed was a job. That’s the only way I could regain a semblance of a life. Somehow I could quit bouncing my leg and get myself together for interviews, and I did get a job that I really didn’t want because I didn’t want to move out-of-state. At this point I was on some pretty powerful medications, but I still wasn’t doing well emotionally. I was living in another city, feeling all alone and out-of-place. I was alive and going through the motions, but was not myself at all. New and more pills were prescribed with abysmal results, but I battled on…..barely.
Suicidal Co-Worker Saved Me
Miraculously, I was able to rejoin a previous employer and return to my home, but the anxiety and depression remained prominent. Because I was back in my home and in a familiar city, I was better emotionally but still struggling mightily to get through a work day. My biggest challenge was short-term memory issues caused by depression. With what I attribute to serendipity, I subsequently hired a vibrant young woman who later disclosed her past suicide attempt while taking antidepressants. Her mother, an RN, was desperate to find an effective alternative treatment. What she discovered was an amino acid protocol, the results of which literally save her daughter’s life.
Because of the honesty of my co-worker and the success I’d seen her have on the amino acid protocol, about 18 months ago; I made a successful transition from traditional antidepressants to amino acid treatment. While my results haven’t been as dramatic as hers, which I attribute to my auto-immune disease and the many accumulated years of depression and anxiety, I am functioning much better than I was while taking anti-depressant and anti-anxiety drugs, and without their many undesirable side-effects. Today I take no prescription anti-anxiety or depression drugs.
Gratitude and Hope
I feel grateful for finding a treatment that more effectively manages my depression and anxiety without the many unpleasant side effects of traditional drug therapy. I am exercising, traveling, following a healthy, gluten-free diet, and functioning better at work than I have since my second job loss.
Being open and honest about my struggles with depression is not easy. I chose to share my journey, hoping others who personally suffer, or are close to someone who suffers, from depression and anxiety will find hope.
I wish you well.

Resources for those needing more information.

American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry

National Institute of Mental Health

National Institute on Aging

©Copyright. February 2016. Linda Leier Thomason

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Do My Stretch Marks Gross You Out?

I never got stretch marks when I was pregnant. In fact, I lost so much weight during the pregnancy I weighed less at Alex’s birth than I did in high school. That’s a whole ‘nother story. But, I definitely got more stretch marks in 2015 than in any other recent year. These marks I’m proud to show and tell about

What stretched you in 2015? What’s on your 2016 list for your personal growth and development? I prefer the term stretch marks to resolutions. How about you?

2015 Stretch Marks
1. I learned how to swim-a lifelong goal and one I blogged about in May 2015 under the category “scoliosis.” Nothing gave me more confidence up to that point in 2015 than this achievement. Many thanks to swim instructor, Tonya, for the training, coaching and motivation.
2. I birthed a website and blog in 2015. Like first time parents, this experience stretched me in all kinds of ways. Some days I rejoiced; others I cowered, and yet others I questioned my sanity for thinking I was cut out for this technical adventure. I love written expression and helping others share their stories through written words. For the most part, it’s been a tremendous success. What I quickly learned is writing is only a small part of having a successful website and blog. The technical and marketing aspects are equally, if not greater, in importance. And, I thank you for joining me on this journey and appreciate all the shares, comments and contributions you’ve made along the way. Keep up the good work, and I will do my best too.
3. Along with the website and technical challenges came learning to trust “remote” support professionals, including those in other countries whom I’ve never met or spoken to. It’s amazing how small our world is when one agrees to meet virtually.
4. I took my first online course on writing for the Internet in 2015. And, I did it in the midst of a major family transition. I missed direct interaction with the instructor and students. However, I enjoyed being able to log in when it was most convenient for me and I thoroughly enjoyed the teaching methods. Taking quizzes, contributing to discussion boards and preparing for a final-well those required dusting off cobwebs. Great fun! Great stretch mark. “A” on final.
5. Linda’s store on the website is major stretch mark. First, I had to shoot all the images and prepare them technically so they could be uploaded and then printed on products. Uff-da! That was a lot of work, but worth all of it. I hope you enjoy viewing the images and will consider placing an order through the store. It’s my small business at work and I thank you for supporting it and all other small businesses.
6. Contacting tourism agencies was another noteworthy stretch mark. As the year progressed, it became quite clear that my passion is visiting and promoting mid to small town America. More than that, I thrive on assessing the culture and heartbeat of a community and promoting it to followers who want to venture to and explore off-the-beaten-path places. This requires my cold calling or contacting tourism agencies and chamber of commerce organizations to collaborate with me. If you’d like me to visit your town and promote it to future tourists, tell me whom to contact. I will. I love travel. I love promotion. I love writing and I certainly enjoy seeing small towns gain additional revenue from visitors.
7. My palate was stretched in 2015. I tried Indian and Ethiopian food along with cuisine from Afghanistan and authentic Mexican fare. Thankfully my husband eats what I prepare and we’ve been enjoying expanding our food selections and preparing it in healthier ways. Recipes can be found under that tab on the website.
8. I was able to work with my husband, Ken, again for one night in 2015 as we shared red carpet interviewer roles for a corporate event. microphoneWe’d worked together for over 20 years before the business was purchased. This one night confirmed my passion for helping others tell their stories, even if only in sound bites on the red carpet. I hadn’t done this type of work in years and the preparation stretched me more than the event did. Once I hit the red carpet, I felt like I was home. I want to do it again!
9. Relocating stretched me in so many ways. I had to let go of “things” to simplify the move and re-learn that what matters most are the people in the room, not the room or the things in it. I’m afraid to say moving was “fun” for fear it will happen sooner rather than later, but approaching another move in 2015 with a different mindset completely de-stressed the process.
10. Home and furnishing purchases considerably stretched me in 2015. Realizing this may be the last time I purchase a house or furnishings touched me at my core. It took longer to find the ideal house because certain features like ranch style were not a choice, but a necessity. Understanding one’s own aging is not for the lighthearted.
11. Other than my own family perhaps, nothing opened my heart more or gave me greater joy in 2015 than being randomly boyzcalled out to dance with BoyzIIMen during their Las Vegas concert. Despite hosting a website and writing a blog, I am a private person who dances in the kitchen with the curtains drawn. I shun the spotlight at all cost. So, to accept the offer to dance in front of a sold out crowd and have my moves projected on big screens for all to analyze, was definitely a stretchable moment. Accepting the invitation on the spur of the moment rather than waving it off is more meaningful to me than the dancing, though I relished every part of that too.
12. The role shift as a mother stretched me most in 2015. Part of me grieves the loss of nurturing while the other part is purely at peace knowing our son, Alex, has found a partner who loves him equally as his parents.britt The calls for information, support and conversation have dwindled. I know these now go to the “other woman” in his life. We love her for what she is in Alex’s life and we celebrate the times we share together. Without speaking about it in technical terms, we all know and accept the role shifts, sometimes with more grace than others. My days of caretaking for a son will one day perhaps be reversed and that’s a role shift that will stretch me too.

I’m starting to create my 2016 list. So far I’ve listed: learn to play pickle ball, travel to the Pacific Northwest and visit at least 8 small to mid-sized towns to promote on my blog. Do you have any other suggestions to add? What would you like me to do and then blog about? Please share. I’m open to hearing your suggestions and trying new things, except skydiving that is.

Linda Leier Thomason is a former CEO who writes freelance business and travel stories, along with feature articles. Her work experiences include a Fortune 500 corporation, federal government, entrepreneurship and small business. Find out more about Linda by clicking the “Meet Linda” tab above. Interested in working together? Complete this form below.

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